Two years ago today, we landed in NC. I took a crazy, yet calculated, jump - no job, no house, no school for Jacob - just hoping we could carve out a new space for us in this world that wasn't a constant reminder of everything we had lost.
It meant completely rebuilding community, temporary financial strains (still owning two homes in CA, while buying one in NC). But moving out of state was always the plan for Joe and me. The "where" changed over the years - Oregon, Washington, Idaho - watching as we got priced out of these places we were growing to see ourselves in our retirement.
Then Joe died and all our plans for the future died with him. I stayed put (in shock) and couldn't think past the next day, let alone the coming years. I didn't want my new life, not without him, so I just survived each day and let dreams of moving fade...honestly, I let all my dreams fade. But then two years after Joe passed, I felt a nudge. I decided I was not only strong enough for a change, but I was craving one, knowing he would be right there with me, cheering us on the whole way.
Change is HARD Y'all! But so is staying in one place forever - just a different kind of hard. No matter what, I know I am capable of big change, and hard things, of carrying our little family through anything life throws at us. No matter how long this NC chapter is (5 years or forever), it will always be something I did, for us, even though we had to leave the familiar and everyone we loved behind. Life isn't meant to be stagnant. Joe knew this...and as he and I used to say "Adventure is out there!" So we might as well live this dang life we were given...all out!
Here's to you NC - our new home, with our new family of friends! We love you and you will forever be a part of us!
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